You are Love(d)
Love is not a weather front that moves in and out. It does not have a return each February like the swallows of Capistrano. It is what you are and yet, with the massive commercial focus on lovers each year at this time, you might be tempted to forget that.
Whether you have a sweetheart or not, don’t give in to the temptation to forget your magnificence, or the miraculous fact that you are the only one of you that will ever exist. Or that you are made of the most potent substance there is – love.
Since love for another can be compromised if you don’t love yourself first, how do you do that? One way is to close your eyes and think of someone or something (your child, pizza, a sunny beach) that you know you love. Then, breathing deeply, fill yourself with love for that other, feeling it in every cell of your body. Now turn that focus inward, opening to receive all that love, and let your cells know this is for you, from you. Do that regularly.
Another great practice is to remember to flirt. Now I’m not talking about twirling your hair with your finger, or batting eyelashes and such, I’m referring to Mama Gena’s definition of flirting: Enjoying yourself in the presence of another.
I never thought of myself as flirtatious until I heard this definition and thought about how I feel/behave in the presence of a baby, puppy or amazing flower. I am an outrageous flirt! I melt inside and out and fill up such feelings of joy and aliveness when I flirt with a baby or puppy or gush over mother nature’s flowering creations. And don’t get me started on fabulous shoes!
February 14th is just another day but if you have forgotten what you are made of and are not regularly calling forth that love, vitality and joy, then flirt. Enjoy yourself fully in the presence of everyone and everything and remind the world that you, and they, are love(d).
It’s all improv,
Jody Kaylor
Recommended resources:
Book: Learning to Love Yourself